Frameworks don’t earn trust on paper.

They earn it in the mess — in busy weeks, disrupted sleep, hormonal shifts, pelvic floor changes, and the kind of lives that don’t pause for perfect programming.

That’s why GRACE™ had to be tested in the real world.

Not refined endlessly in theory.
Not “rolled out” once it looked tidy.
But stress-tested early, where women actually live.

Why testing matters in women’s health

Women’s health has a long history of well-intentioned ideas that fall apart on contact with reality.

Programs that assume consistency.
Guidelines that ignore recovery.
Frameworks that don’t account for emotional load, fluctuating energy, or the cumulative impact of stress.

Midlife exposes those cracks quickly.

So when GRACE™ shifted from concept to protocol, the next step was obvious:
GRACE™ had to leave my desk.

What the GRACE™ Advisory Panel (GAP) is — and why it exists

The GRACE™ Advisory Panel (GAP) was created for one reason:
to see whether the protocol held up outside my own thinking.

GAP is a small group of trainers and practitioners working with midlife women across different settings — personal training, group classes, gyms, and health-focused environments.

Their role wasn’t to promote GRACE™.
It was to use it, question it, and report back honestly.

No polishing.
No perfect weeks.
No ideal clients.

Just real application.

What came back from the field

What emerged through GAP wasn’t hype or praise.

It was clarity.

Personal trainer Sara Fliess described the shift simply:

GRACE™ gave me and my clients a language to talk about exercise differently — one that removed blame and explained why training looked different from week to week.

Functional health coach Cassandra Irvin was more direct:

The traditional FITT model didn’t work for midlife women because it was too rigid and too linear for bodies that no longer respond predictably.

Gym owner and athlete Cindy Rella noticed the impact immediately in her own training:

When I stopped living with GRACE™, my recovery dropped — and the data confirmed it.

And Michelle Caldwell, gym owner and trainer, captured what many women feel but rarely say out loud:

Midlife women are already juggling so much — movement needs to celebrate what’s possible, not punish what isn’t.

Different settings.
Different women.
Same pattern.

What actually held up

Across the panel, the same themes kept surfacing:

• GRACE™ didn’t tell women what to do — it helped them understand why

• REGULATE wasn’t optional; it changed how women recovered and showed up

• ACCUMULATE reframed “not enough” into consistency

• GRIT became intentional instead of performative

• ENDURANCE created space — physically and mentally

Most importantly, women stopped interpreting variability as failure.

That’s the quiet win.

Why this matters

Women’s health doesn’t need more concepts that only work when life is calm and energy is high.

It needs frameworks that survive:

• interrupted sleep

• hormonal unpredictability

• pelvic floor considerations

• emotional and cognitive load

• weeks that don’t behave

GRACE™ didn’t come out of testing more impressive.

It came out more usable.

And in midlife — usability is everything.

What this stage of GRACE™ is really about

This phase of GRACE™ isn’t about scaling or packaging.

It’s about integrity.

About making sure the framework holds before asking more women — or professionals — to trust it.

Because women don’t need another system that asks them to try harder.

They need one that finally makes sense.

Why don’t you have a go with living with GRACE™ and let me know what you learn.

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I write education for the fitness industry.

Which means people regularly ask me for things like:
“Can you write a workout for peri-menopausal women?”
or
“What’s the best training plan for post-menopause?”

And every time, my answer is the same.

I can’t.

Not because women in midlife don’t need strength.
Not because exercise stops mattering.
But because women in their 40s, 50s and 60s are not a monolith.

The problem with “the menopause workout”

One woman is sleeping. Another isn’t.
One feels strong and confident. Another is terrified of leaking.
One has energy in the morning. Another doesn’t feel human until midday.
One wants challenge. Another needs containment.

Often, all of this is happening in the same woman — across the same week.

So when the industry asks for “the menopause workout”, what it’s really asking for is certainty.

And midlife bodies don’t offer that.

They offer variability.
They offer fluctuation.
They offer context.

That’s not a programming problem.
That’s an education problem.

Why FITT starts to fall apart in midlife

The traditional FITT model — Frequency, Intensity, Time, Type — was built for optimisation and output.

It assumes:

• predictable recovery

• stable energy

• linear progression

• bodies that respond the same way week to week

Midlife physiology doesn’t work like that.

Hormones shift.
Sleep fragments.
Stress loads increase.
Recovery windows change.

What matters most now isn’t just what someone does — it’s how it lands, how it fits, and how it interacts with the rest of her life.

That’s why so many capable, motivated women end up feeling like they’re “failing” exercise in midlife — when in reality, they’ve simply outgrown the framework they were given.

Why workouts weren’t the answer

I could have written softer workouts.
Shorter workouts.
“Menopause-friendly” workouts.

But that still would have missed the point.

Because the issue isn’t the workout.

The issue is that women don’t have a way to interpret what’s happening in their body — or permission to adapt without guilt.

What women needed wasn’t another program to follow.
They needed a lens.

A way to understand:

• why some weeks feel different

• why strength doesn’t disappear overnight

• why ten minutes can still matter

• why slowing down can be strategic, not weak

That’s when it became clear this couldn’t be a program.

It had to be a protocol.

Why GRACE became a framework, not a plan

GRACE didn’t emerge as a template you plug women into.

It emerged as a way of thinking about movement across a week — one that could flex with symptoms, energy, recovery, and real life.

GRIT
REGULATE
ACCUMULATE
CARDIO
ENDURANCE

Each element stands on its own.
Together, they give shape to a week without locking anyone into rigid rules.

Some weeks skew toward REGULATE.
Some lean into GRIT.
Some are built on ACCUMULATE and ENDURANCE alone.

That variability isn’t a flaw.
It’s the design.

Midlife women aren’t stepping away from fitness — we’re stepping into it

There’s a narrative that midlife is about decline.

Biologically, that’s nonsense.

Midlife is a transition — one that asks for:

• more awareness

• more nuance

• better explanations

• and frameworks that respect complexity

Women in this stage aren’t incapable.
They’re ready — for strength, leadership, and long-term capacity.

But they need systems that explain how to train in this season — not ones that shame them for not matching a younger body’s response.

What comes next

GRACE didn’t replace FITT because FITT was “wrong”.
It replaced it because midlife demanded more context.

This work isn’t about prescribing the perfect workout.
It’s about giving women — and the professionals who work with them — a way to understand movement again.

One that fits real bodies.
Real weeks.
Real lives.

That’s where GRACE starts.

Want to know more about GRACE?

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Last week, I stood inside Parliament House in Canberra with 50 other leaders in fitness and health, invited to the first-ever AUSactive Leadership Summit. This blog won’t cover all the speakers (there were 10 – each with a great message) – but will share with you the story arc of how we got there and what it means next.

Seven years ago, when Barrie Elvish first stepped into the CEO role at AUSactive (then still Fitness Australia), our very first conversation was about dismantling the boys’ club that was firmly rooted at Fitness Australia and its partner event – FILEX. 

Barrie told me that it was his very intention to do this.

And he meant it.

Fast-forward to now — that office is full of powerhouse women in leadership roles, driving serious change. Billie, Mariana, Rain, Chloe — all quietly getting sh*t done on behalf of the industry.

You might ask yourself, why does this all of matter to me?

I learnt a long time ago and from being a relief (sometimes called a supply) teacher at many schools – across New Zealand, Japan and England – that the vibe in the staffroom is wholly reflected in the vibe in the playground. Leadership matters.

I had challenged Barry’s predecessor (Bill Moore) at Fitness Australia about the gender inequalities in both leadership and on the main stage at FILEX.

Bill (or Billy to his mates) was unfazed and literally told me that the average of women on boards was around 20% (at the time) and so Fitness Australia was doing “fine” in reflecting that. And as for FILEX, I was told they simply couldn’t find women to present on the topics that they wanted. Women’s Health was not a priority. 

Oh, how that made my blood boil.

It made me so cross that I created the Women’s Health and Fitness Summit – for 4 years, this championed women’s health and its speakers.

In fact, one of my proudest achievements in this industry was creating

The Platform (as part of WHFS) – which nurtured 4 new speakers to the stage. Many have gone on to continue to excel in public speaking.

As an aside, I continue this legacy at Women’s Fitness Education – where I organise the monthly webinar for our students. About 75% of these presenters are new, or relatively new. I work with them in a mentoring capacity to ensure that their presentation is a) pitched at the right level for our students who are new to Cert 3+4 in fitness and b) on completion of this mentoring process, they finish with a presentation that they could absolutely give on a bigger stage, such as FILEX.

But, I digress…

That conversation with Barrie was seven years ago.
Today, as he passes the baton, the organisation he’s leaving behind looks nothing like the one he walked into. The culture has shifted. The purpose has deepened. And AUSactive has grown up — not just as an industry body, but as a credible advocate.

And last week, I watched that advocacy in action, at Parliament House.

What Happens in Canberra Doesn’t Stay in Canberra

I was one of approximately 50 people invited to the AUSactive Industry Forum at Parliament House in Canberra.
Ministers from both sides of politics were there. They weren’t vague about the issues that the Australian health system has now, and into the future, if we don’t start doing something different. They flat-out said: the health system is cracking under pressure. Chronic disease is costing the country — financially, emotionally, and systemically.
And they’re finally naming something we’ve known all along:
Exercise is part of the solution.

The Work Started With “Fit for Office”

One of AUSactive’s smartest advocacy plays in recent years has been the Fit for Office campaign — getting parliamentarians to actually engage with movement (and let’s face it, tapping into their love of competition). That campaign built the foundation for relationships to help another objective of AUSactive: lobbying to have gym memberships made FBT-exempt — removing the fringe benefits tax and making it easier for employers to offer gym access as a benefit.
You can read more about that here.

We’re not there yet. But this is precisely how policy traction works:
Relationship by relationship. Year after year. Lobby by lobby.
It’s playing the long game. It’s strategic.

And from Fit for Office, we’ve now seen the launch of Million Moves — a campaign now in its 3rd year and has received funding in WA, Queensland, Ballarat and Wollongong, encouraging Australians to log movement as part of a visible, trackable push to move the dial on public health.

The data around non-active Australians getting a taste for movement via this campaign and feeling inspired to join their local gym is clear.
The goal: to have this funded and promoted across Australia.

GLP-1s: The Risk Beneath the Headlines

There was no avoiding the hot topic in the room: GLP-1 medications. Fast-tracked, widespread, and very effective at cutting weight. What does this mean for the fitness industry when prescriptions written for these drugs are on a rapid rise?
One very clear correlation is inevitable muscle loss that makes up this weight loss. It’s alarming.
Studies show 10–40% of the weight lost is lean mass — the kind of loss that mirrors two decades of aging in less than two years.
That has long-term implications — falls, frailty, sarcopenic obesity, poor metabolic recovery. And yet… no one’s talking about what rebuilds muscle.
Here’s the answer: movement.
More specifically: progressive, coached, resistance-based exercise.

And we need to be shouting that from every rooftop. The leadership in the room were able to see the connection between prescribing these effective weight loss drugs, alongside exercise, to make this a long-term health solution for the current and rising obesity levels.
The call to action was clear – make relationships with your local dr.’s who are prescribing these drugs, to share the important work you do.

Calling Out Silence – Because Silence is Where Power Hides

At the forum, we were encouraged to ask questions. I asked Dr. Michael Wright — President of the RACGP — about the government’s $700 million funding boost for women’s health. Specifically, a portion that has been earmarked to upskill GPs on menopause —currently a topic that GP’s receive very little information and many are still not recommending hormone therapy because of their own misguided biases.

He dodged the question.
I asked it again, and again he dodged.
Interestingly, at the dinner later that evening, he approached me to ask if he had answered his question.
No, I said, and held his gaze. But you can now.
For a third time, he refused to answer and filled the air with words.

And look, I’ve been around long enough to know that asking the uncomfortable question doesn’t win you popularity.
But it does build pressure.
And pressure is how policy gets made. It’s how old systems get cracked open.
So yes, I’ll keep asking. And, if you are feeling brave, or post menopause feisty, so should you.

Advocacy takes time

It takes time to see the value in these relationships. Be patient.
We have to be in it for the long game.
If you’ve ever thought, “Why are we wasting time on politics? My clients don’t care about Canberra,” you’re not alone. I have also heard that sentiment expressed inside the AUSactive Suppliers Advisory Group, of which I am a part.

But let me tell you: if we don’t get loud in the rooms where decisions are made, we stay stuck on the sidelines. Any advocacy for our industry at this level, has massive upsides for our fitness professionals and honouring the important work that they do – improving the lives of ordinary people. Helping people stay out of the health care system. Helping people stay active.

The Leadership Hand-Off: From Barrie to Ken

Leadership transitions can be sticky. They can undo momentum.
But this one? This looks very promising.
Ken Griffin has just been announced as AUSactive’s incoming CEO. His background? Health advocacy. Nursing policy. System change.
I believe Ken is the right person to carry the baton forward. To keep this momentum going, we need someone with experience — someone who can be an effective advocate for health in the rooms where decisions are made.

This Isn’t Too Big For You. Get Involved.

You don’t have to be on the board.
You don’t need to be in Parliament House.
You don’t even need to know what FBT stands for (although now you do).
You just need to care enough to act:

• Invite your local MP or councillor to your gym.
• Talk to your local GP about referring patients to exercise professionals.
• Host a Million Moves event and invite your community.
• Start the conversation. Make the contact. Be the squeaky wheel.

Because that’s how change happens. Not through perfect plans — but through persistent people.

Final Word

There were years — I’ll be honest — when I could understand why Fitness Professionals felt disgruntled with the membership fee of Fitness Australia / AUSactive.
But this? This is different.
This is momentum. This is political traction. This is real.
And if you’re still on the sidelines, the only question I’ve got for you is:
What will your MP, your GP, or your community know about your work by the end of this month?
Because if they don’t know — they can’t fund it, refer to it, or fight for it.
And let’s face it — no one else is going to do that for you.

Thanks for reading to here… but wait there is more…

I extended my Canberra trip to include two other events — the first being teaching my Menopause Training Matrix™ and inducting another round of incredible women into my Leadership Program. These women will go on to lead and present in their own communities, sharing credible, engaging menopause education. This is how we shift culture — not just by knowing more, but by being a powerful communicator.

I also went on the Canberra edition of the She Shapes History walking tour. I’m not going to lie — I bloody love me a walking tour. And it didn’t matter that the temp was sub-arctic (as only Canberra can manage) because the vibe was solid gold. Exploring the area through the lens of what it meant to be a woman in a very male and powerful institution.

Fun fact: Parliament House didn’t get its first women’s toilets until 1974. Until then, women MPs had to leave the chamber and run halfway across the building. I learnt that fact from my walking tour. And I learned about Edith Lyon, the first woman elected to the House of Representatives. First woman in the federal Cabinet. She raised twelve kids (yes, twelve) and still took a seat at the big table — advocating for family welfare, women’s role in public life, and national health priorities. I did think at once of her pelvic floor.

And Dorothy Tangney? She wasn’t a big woman, but you could just tell she was mighty. Here’s a photo of me beside her statue — this one is made in exactly one-to-one ratio – a diversion of the traditional 1 to 3 ratio of most (male) statues.

Today, we’ve got equal representation across the current Labor Government, and the highest investment in women’s health this country has ever seen. Is it enough? No. I’d love to see organisations like Birth Trauma Australia appropriately funded.

But don’t mistake progress for coincidence — this shift happened because quotas were introduced in Labor in 1994, and they’re now paying dividends. Where attention goes, the money flows.
But make no mistake: we need representation at the table.
That’s precisely what AUSactive is doing — building long-game relationships with the people already at that table.
But you don’t need to wait for an invitation.
Start your own relationship with your local MP.
Do they know what you do? Have you invited them into your gym? FYI: Shadow Ministers are hungry for grassroots right now.
Educate your MP. Educate your doctor. Talk about GLP-1s. Talk about menopause. Ask about their health. Other countries have passed legislation that makes prescribing exercise part of standard healthcare.

It’s not that far off.
So, channel a bit of Dorothy. Or Edith. Get involved.

P.S. If you have read this to the very end. I commend you… it was a biggie. And if the idea of presenting (and being mentored) to my community at Women’s Fitness Education – I would love to hear your ideas. There is a 6 month waiting list – but this might be the hand up you need to go next level in sharing your goodness with the world. Reach out – hello@mishwright.com.

Imagine you’re ready to start thinking about having kids. You’re nowhere near your biological “use-by” date—or at least that’s what everyone keeps telling you. But then life throws you a curveball. Suddenly, doctors are casually dropping terms like “premature ovarian insufficiency,” and you learn that your ovaries have decided to pack up decades before you were ready to stop using them.

It hits hard, because no one sees it coming. And let’s be clear—it’s not just about biology. It’s the gut-wrenching loss of what you’ve always assumed was yours by right. Our society quietly whispers (and sometimes shouts) that womanhood and motherhood are deeply entwined. So what happens when the baby-making furniture ages out way before the rest of your house?

POI isn’t just “early menopause”—it’s emotional whiplash. It’s grieving the children you imagined, the family you planned, the future that suddenly looks so different. It’s the punchline of a cruel joke: you’re young, you’re healthy, but your ovaries are acting like they’ve lived a lifetime ahead of you.

Yeah, we’ll get to the medical facts—the how, the why (or frustratingly, why-not-yet)—but first we need to acknowledge this pain, this weird kind of mourning. Because understanding POI starts with understanding the emotional earthquake that shakes everything you thought you knew about yourself and your future.

What Exactly is POI?

Premature Ovarian Insufficiency (POI) is when your ovaries slow down or completely stop functioning normally before you’re 40. It means fewer eggs, disrupted hormone production, and often, the loss of regular periods. While early menopause typically happens between ages 40 and 45, POI can hit women in their teens, twenties, or thirties, affecting about 1% of women under 40. This isn’t just menopause turning up early—this is your reproductive system unexpectedly hitting the brakes.

Spotting the Signs

POI often announces itself subtly. Irregular or completely absent periods are usually the first red flags. Add fertility struggles, hot flushes, night sweats, mood swings, anxiety, depression, and low libido into the mix, and the signs become harder to ignore. A diagnosis typically involves hormone testing, ultrasounds, and an exclusion of other potential causes, like thyroid issues or autoimmune conditions.

But even with clear symptoms, POI frequently remains undiagnosed or misdiagnosed, often leaving women feeling isolated, misunderstood, or dismissed.

The Emotional Aftershock

The emotional toll of POI is intense and often overshadowed by clinical conversations. Suddenly being faced with infertility or a severely shortened fertility window brings profound grief. Society conditions women to see motherhood as a fundamental right or at least an expectation. Having that stripped away abruptly can feel like betrayal.

Beyond infertility, POI often shakes your identity. Women describe feeling “broken” or “less of a woman.” Anxiety, depression, and isolation are common companions. The invisible emotional weight is rarely spoken about openly, making an already painful experience even lonelier.

Understanding the “Why” (Or Frustratingly Not)

In most cases, we simply don’t know why POI happens—it’s labelled idiopathic, medical jargon for “we have no bloody idea.” Occasionally, known factors like autoimmune disorders (thyroid conditions, Addison’s disease), genetics (Turner syndrome), or medical treatments (like chemotherapy or radiation) provide some explanation. But the majority of women with POI never get answers, which compounds the emotional turmoil.

Managing Life with POI

While there’s currently no cure, managing POI effectively can drastically improve quality of life. Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT or MHT) is recommended to protect bone density, heart health, cognitive function, and reduce symptoms. Physical activity, particularly resistance training and cardiovascular exercise, also becomes crucial—not only for physical well-being but emotional resilience too.

Mental health support can’t be overlooked either. Grief counselling, therapy, and connecting with support groups help navigate the emotional labyrinth. Fertility counselling, including discussions about donor eggs, IVF, adoption, or redefining family, is also an important part of managing expectations and emotions.

POI and Fitness Professionals: Changing the Conversation

For fitness professionals, understanding POI is essential. Clients experiencing POI aren’t just dealing with hormonal chaos—they’re grappling with emotional upheaval. Training programs need flexibility and sensitivity:

• Include bone-safe exercises.
• Emphasise energy management and mood stabilisation.
• Foster a supportive environment that acknowledges emotional struggles rather than ignoring them.

Fitness professionals are uniquely positioned to offer meaningful support by seeing beyond a diagnosis and recognising the emotional toll POI exacts.

Rebuilding the Room

Here’s the truth: there’s no tidy, inspirational ending here. POI can feel like your reproductive furniture aged out long before you even had a chance to fully use it—like inheriting antiques you never asked for, taking up space where something newer, brighter, more you was meant to be.

But here’s the thing about furniture—sometimes, with a bit of support, reshaping, or simply repositioning, the room can still become a space that suits who you are right now. Maybe motherhood takes a different shape, maybe family means something broader and deeper, or maybe healing simply starts when we stop pretending it’s okay to feel robbed of the future we’d imagined.

Acknowledging POI’s emotional toll openly is the first step to reclaiming your space. No, you didn’t choose this old furniture. But it’s your room. And it’s okay—necessary even—to decide exactly how you want to rearrange, repurpose, or even discard some of those pieces. Because your life, your womanhood, and your value extend far beyond the state of your ovaries.

You’re allowed to grieve, rage, rebuild, and rearrange. After all, this house—your life—is still yours to shape.

Menopause isn’t just a quirky phase with hot flushes and mood swings—it’s a whole journey that can throw some unexpected curveballs at your body, especially in your intimate areas. And while words like “vaginal atrophy” might sound clinical and downright awful (who in their right mind wants to admit that their vagina—the scene of plumped bits and juicy orgasms—is now as dried up as a craisin?), there’s a better way to talk about it.

Instead of letting harsh words define our experience, we can use a non-judgmental, honest term: GSM, or Genitourinary Syndrome of Menopause. It’s a catchall phrase that acknowledges a range of issues linked to menopause while giving us permission to show our vag* a little more love and get the support it needs so it can keep loving us back.

*When I use the term vag – I am also referring in this instance to the vulva as well.

What Exactly Is GSM?

GSM covers a whole spectrum of symptoms caused by a drop in oestrogen. Oestrogen does a lot for us—it keeps our vaginal and urethral tissues thick, elastic, and moist. When those levels dip, as they naturally do during menopause (or sometimes even before), the tissues can become thinner, drier, and more fragile. And that’s when those pesky symptoms start to show up. Instead of blaming our vag with terms like “atrophy,” we acknowledge GSM as a natural part of the menopausal transition—a signal that things are changing down there and that it might be time to give it a bit of extra TLC.

This isn’t just a theoretical concept. GSM is super common, affecting somewhere between 50 and 70% of postmenopausal women. Even before menopause, if you’re in a hypoestrogenic state—whether that’s early menopause, postpartum, breastfeeding, or due to certain medications—similar symptoms can occur. Unlike some menopause symptoms that fade away over time, GSM often sticks around and can even worsen if left untreated. And too many women suffer in silence, either out of embarrassment or simply not knowing there’s help available.

The Real Symptoms of GSM

Let’s get straight about what GSM can look like:

• Vaginal Dryness and Irritation: More than 90% of women with GSM experience a persistent dry or itchy sensation. Imagine your intimate area feeling less like a soft, welcoming haven and more like it’s perpetually in need of rehydration.
• Painful Sex (Dyspareunia): Up to 80% of women dealing with GSM report discomfort or burning during sex. It’s not just about reduced libido—it’s a real physical hurdle that can make intimacy less enjoyable.
• Vaginal Burning or Discomfort: Beyond dryness, you might feel a constant rawness or heat in your vaginal area.
• Urinary Urgency or Frequency: That sudden, pressing need to pee all the time? Yep, GSM can do that.
• Urinary Incontinence: Trouble controlling your bladder or unexpected leaks can also be part of the picture.
• Recurrent UTIs: With the natural protective environment compromised, it’s easier for infections to sneak in.

These symptoms can seriously affect your sexual health, bladder function, and overall well-being, making it all the more important to tackle GSM head-on.

Insights from Dr. Kelly Casperson

Dr. Kelly Casperson—a brilliant mind in women’s health—hits the nail on the head when she says

“GSM isn’t just an inevitable part of aging. It’s your body’s way of saying, “Hey, something’s up here, and I need a bit of care!”

Her message is clear: by recognising and addressing GSM early, you can take back control of your comfort and confidence. Her approach encourages us to have open, honest conversations with our healthcare providers rather than letting embarrassment or outdated terminology keep us from seeking help.

I really enjoy Kelly’s Podcast – You Are Not Broken and her empowering way of framing information.

And I also enjoyed Sonya Lovell’s podcast Dear Menopause – in this episode Sonya interviewed Dr. Kelly. It’s great!

The Magic of Vaginal Oestrogen

Now, let’s chat about one of my favourite solutions: vaginal oestrogen. I can’t say enough good things about this topical treatment. It’s ridiculously safe, and because you apply it right where you need it, it works wonders without messing with your whole body. Many women have affectionately dubbed it “magic cream”—and for good reason.

When applied directly, vaginal oestrogen helps restore the moisture, thickness, and elasticity of your vaginal tissues. This isn’t just about comfort during sex (though that’s a huge bonus); it can also help with symptoms like mild prolapse by plumping and strengthening the tissues around your vulva and vagina. And here’s a fun fact: in England, you can actually buy it over the counter, making it super accessible if you’re ready to give your vag the love it deserves.

The Joys of Lube

Let’s not overlook another simple yet brilliant tool in our GSM arsenal—lube. When your natural lubrication isn’t quite up to the job anymore, a good lube can be a total game-changer. Not only does it reduce friction and discomfort during intimacy, but it also protects your sensitive skin from further irritation.

My personal favourite? A silicone-based lube called Pjur. It feels amazing, and you don’t have to wait til things feel dry to feel the benefits! A little word of caution: because Purr is silicone-based, it’s best not to use it with silicone toys (swap in a water-based lube for that scenario—even though they can sometimes get sticky). The point is that quality lube can transform your intimate moments from a struggle into something you can actually look forward to.

If you want your sticky, tricky questions answered and if you are local to Melbourne – I thoroughly recommend a visit to Passionfruit Sensuality Shop. They have some great blogs around this too!

Treatment Options and Lifestyle Adjustments

Of course, vaginal oestrogen and lube are just parts of the puzzle. Managing GSM often calls for a more holistic approach. Hormonal therapies, whether systemic or local, can help rebalance your body’s chemistry, but if you’re wary of hormones, non-hormonal options like moisturisers and lubricants offer immediate relief.

Lifestyle adjustments can also make a significant difference. Regular sexual activity helps keep your tissues in good shape, while pelvic floor exercises can boost support. Even mindfulness practices can help you tune in to your body and manage the emotional side of these physical changes. But here’s something important: if your relationship is less than stellar, no amount of cream or lube is going to fix that. A toxic relationship can be a serious handbrake on your desire and overall well-being. So, make sure you’re also experiencing a nurturing, supportive, loving environment both in and out of the bedroom.

Taking Control of Your Menopausal Journey

At the end of the day, GSM is a very real part of the menopausal journey for many women—but it doesn’t have to dictate your life. By recognising the signs and understanding your options, you can take proactive steps to care for your body. It’s all about showing your vag a little more love, giving it the support it needs, and ensuring it can continue being the vibrant, pleasure-giving part of you that it’s meant to be.

It might seem daunting at first, but knowledge is power. When you swap out outdated, judgemental terms for something like GSM—a phrase that acknowledges both the challenges and the solutions—you’re opening the door to a world of support and treatment options that can truly make a difference.

Final Thoughts

GSM might sound clinical at first, but don’t let that fool you. Behind the jargon is a very real set of symptoms that affect your quality of life. From dryness and irritation to painful sex and urinary troubles, these issues are part of the menopausal landscape for many of us. And while the idea of our vaginas “drying up” might feel like a slap in the face to our vibrant, pleasure-loving selves, it doesn’t have to be a life sentence.

With effective treatments like vaginal oestrogen—our modern-day “magic cream”—and the everyday relief provided by a good lube like Purr, you have all the tools you need to give your vag the love it deserves. It’s time to ditch the negative labels and embrace a more compassionate, proactive approach to your intimate health.

So if any of this resonates with you, take a moment to listen to your body. Get informed, have those honest chats with your healthcare provider, and remember: your vag is counting on you to treat it right.

Recently, while scrolling through social media (in my very limited, sanity-preserving way), I heard someone talking about “natural menopause.”

I really, really hate that term.

Not because menopause isn’t natural—it absolutely is—but because of what that phrase implies. That there’s a right way to do menopause. That if you veer off the prescribed path—by, say, taking Menopause Hormone Therapy (MHT)—you’re somehow doing it wrong.

And honestly, it reminds me of another term that has been relentlessly thrown at us: Natural birth.

Natural Birth: What Does That Really Mean?

When I was pregnant, I received every subtle (and not-so-subtle) message that a natural birth was superior. That my body was “made” for this. That interventions—epidurals, C-sections, induction—were somehow a failure rather than legitimate medical options. That these interventions are often overused and the repercussions of these interventions are a complete topic for another day.

But here’s the thing: for centuries, childbirth has been dangerous. Women died. Women still die. And while modern medicine has significantly reduced maternal mortality rates, we’re still dealing with the cultural residue of an era where women’s pain was dismissed, and survival was a roll of the dice.

The idea that “natural” birth is somehow superior ignores the reality that without medical advancements, many of us wouldn’t be here. Myself included. It also conveniently glosses over the fact that different women experience childbirth differently—some have quick, uncomplicated labours, while others endure days of agony, medical complications, or trauma.

And yet, women are still guilted into believing that using pain relief or accepting medical intervention is somehow “less than.”
Sound familiar?

Because the exact same thing is happening with the menopause narrative.

The “Natural” Menopause Trap

Like birth, menopause is natural—however, it happens. Whether you sail through with barely a symptom or get hit by every goddamn one like a freight train. Whether you take MHT or don’t. Whether you embrace, rage against, or feel every shade in between.

And yet, the phrase natural menopause lingers in the air, often with an unspoken caveat: Natural menopause is best.

Which raises the same questions:

1. If MHT isn’t natural, does that mean taking it is unnatural?
2. That managing symptoms with medical support is wrong?
3. That we should suffer through because “it’s just part of the process”?

The Problem with “Natural” Narratives in Women’s Health

Here’s where language gets tricky:

When we label something natural, it automatically sounds superior—pure, wholesome, better. But what’s left unsaid is often more important than what’s said.
Because when we dig deeper, we see that these narratives aren’t neutral. They are built on the historical medical bias that women’s pain is not taken as seriously as men’s—and that bias has real, measurable consequences.

Research shows that:

Women’s pain is more likely to be dismissed by medical professionals. A 2019 study in the Journal of Pain Research found that women wait longer than men for pain relief in emergency settings, even when presenting with the same symptoms.
Women of colour experience even greater medical neglect. A 2016 study in PNAS found that nearly half of medical students surveyed believed Black patients felt less pain than white patients—leading to undertreatment of pain.

Women with chronic pain conditions, including endometriosis and fibromyalgia, are more likely to be told their symptoms are psychosomatic rather than receiving proper medical investigation.

This isn’t about conspiracy theories—it’s about centuries of medical bias shaping how women’s symptoms are perceived and treated.

And menopause? It’s the same old story.

Many doctors still dismiss menopausal symptoms as “just part of aging.” They downplay hot flushes, brain fog, and joint pain as if they’re mere inconveniences rather than signs of significant hormonal shifts that impact long-term health.

And because women’s health has historically been underfunded and under-researched, we’re left with outdated information, conflicting advice, and a cultural script that tells us to just grit our teeth and get through it.

Menopause: A Window of Opportunity (and Vulnerability)

I often describe menopause as both a window of opportunity and a time of vulnerability—and how we navigate that window can shape the decades ahead.

The Opportunity?

Many women find that midlife brings a shift. Many women start caring less about what other people think, stop playing the people-pleasing game, and begin to advocate for ourselves in ways we never have before.

I spent a large part of my life being “nice. ” This translates to not ruffling feathers, being a good girl, mother, and professional. And it’s no surprise why—society rewards that behaviour in women.

But recognising those patterns is the first step to breaking them. And breaking them? That’s where the real opportunity lies.

We get to make space for ourselves and prioritise our health—physically, mentally, and emotionally. Whether that means taking the time to go to the gym, walking daily, changing our diet, or even taking MHT, these are all valid choices that deserve support, not stigma.

The Vulnerability?

The biggest risk in menopause isn’t just the symptoms—it’s falling into the trap of not challenging our old habits.

Many of the diseases that kill or disable women—dementia, heart disease, osteoporosis, diabetes, pelvic floor dysfunction —start or accelerate at menopause. Why? Because when oestrogen leaves the building, it takes a lot of our body’s natural defences with it.

That’s why so many of us suddenly experience:

• Brain fog and memory lapses (oestrogen plays a critical role in brain function)
• Joint pain and muscle loss (oestrogen supports muscle mass and joint lubrication)
• Bone density loss (hello, osteoporosis risk)
• Increased risk of heart disease (oestrogen helps regulate cholesterol and blood vessels)
• Pelvic floor dysfunction – incontinence is the single biggest reason that women are admitted into aged care facilities

And yet, here we are, still debating whether it’s “natural” to take action.

MHT: It’s Not for Everyone, But It Should Be a Choice

Let’s be clear: MHT doesn’t work for everyone. And not everyone should take it.

But here’s what shouldn’t be happening:
Women suffering needlessly because they’ve been told to “tough it out” or not had their symptoms taken seriously.

Professionals not connecting the dots with menopausal symptoms.

Women being told MHT is risky when the research actually shows most healthy women under 60 can take it without fear.

Women who want MHT but can’t access it because their doctor is misinformed or dismissive.

The latest guidelines from the North American Menopause Society state:

“Most healthy women under 60 or within 10 years of their last period can take hormone therapy without fear—whether it’s oestrogen alone or combined with progesterone.”

And yet, only 15-20% of women suffering through menopause are actually accessing it.

Why?

Because language shapes perception. And perception shapes access.

Call Bullshit & Make the Choices That Serve You

So, I call bullshit on terms like natural menopause.

I call bullshit on the idea that suffering is some kind of moral high ground.

And I say: give the middle finger to anything that doesn’t serve you.

If you want to explore hormones, do it. If you don’t, that’s fine too. But don’t let fear-mongering language about what’s “natural” make your decision for you.

Because midlife shouldn’t be the Misery Olympics.

And no one wins a medal for suffering.

The Unremarkable Start of a Cyclical Journey

I remember my first period arriving without ceremony, a quietly hushed event met with a matter-of-fact instruction: “This is your lot as a woman.” No fanfare, no celebration. Just a sense of inevitability and duty. It was a transition into womanhood framed as something to endure rather than embrace.

For years, I lived disconnected from my cycle. It wasn’t until much later—through professional learning and personal exploration—that I truly understood the power and rhythm of my menstrual cycle. Reading The Red Tent by Anita Diamant when it was published in the late ’90s was a pivotal moment for me. It was the first time I thought about how menstruation was treated historically—before shame and silence became entrenched. It kick-started my curiosity about our cycles, which were not burdens but sources of power and wisdom. It was to be many more years before I confidently used this knowledge.

The book’s portrayal of women retreating together during their cycles, honouring their shared experiences, made me rethink everything I knew about menstruation and womanhood. It kick-started my curiosity about our cycles, which were not burdens but sources of power and wisdom.

Yet, while we are starting to reclaim the importance of understanding our menstrual cycles, menopause—the transition to our Matriarchal phase—remains largely uncelebrated in Western culture. Why? This question led me to explore how other cultures mark this transition and why ritual and celebration matter so deeply.

Forgotten Rituals: Honouring the Wise Woman

In many Indigenous cultures, menopause is seen as a sacred transition into wisdom and leadership.

For the Maori people of Aotearoa (New Zealand), where I am from, the role of the
kuia (elder woman) is highly respected. The kuia holds knowledge passed down through generations, guiding her community with wisdom that comes from a life lived fully. This transition isn’t shrouded in shame or silence—it’s honoured as a vital part of community life.

Similarly, many Native American tribes view menopause as a time when a woman becomes a wise woman or spiritual elder. The Lakota people, for example, believe that when a woman no longer menstruates, she holds all her wisdom within. Her energy, no longer spent on reproduction, can be directed outward to the community.
She becomes a keeper of stories, traditions, and healing practices.

Even within Wiccan traditions, the transition to the Crone phase is a celebrated rite of passage. The Triple Goddess archetype—Maiden, Mother, Crone—honours the cyclical nature of life. The Crone embodies wisdom, transformation, and the power of endings leading to new beginnings. In Wicca, a Crone ceremony may be held to mark this transition, celebrating the woman’s journey through life and the wisdom she now brings to her community.

These traditions recognise that leaving behind reproductive years is not an ending to mourn but a beginning to celebrate. They remind us that there is immense value in ritualising significant life transitions, especially for women.

 

Reclaiming the Crone: Muse, Mentor, Matriarch

Last year, I had the privilege of delivering a keynote at the FUEL conference in Auckland, New Zealand. The audience was made up of women in the fitness industry, and my presentation focused on the Triple Goddess archetype and its relevance to our modern lives. But instead of using the traditional labels of Maiden, Mother, and Crone, I reimagined them as Muse, Mentor, and Matriarch.

Why the change? The word “Crone” carries baggage. It’s been twisted by patriarchal narratives to mean something ugly, undesirable, or irrelevant. But historically, the Crone was revered as a wise woman, healer, and truth-teller. During the witch trials across Europe, thousands of women—many of them healers and midwives—were executed. These witch hunts were not just about religion; they were about dismantling women’s collective power in healing and storytelling. The burning of witches was a brutal attempt to erase the knowledge and autonomy that women held within their communities.

This historical context resonated deeply with me. It made me realise that reclaiming the Crone—reclaiming our transition to wisdom and leadership—is an act of resistance. It’s about stepping into our power and refusing to be silenced.

The impact of this realisation was profound. So much so that I marked the moment with a tattoo. At the conference, I unveiled my first tattoo on stage—a symbol of the Triple Goddess. It was a personal declaration of my commitment to honouring these cycles and stepping into my role as a Matriarch.

Pop Culture’s Quiet Shift

While traditional rituals have been lost or buried under layers of patriarchy, pop culture is beginning to catch up. Books like Period Queen by Lucy Peach have sparked conversations around menstruation and the power of women’s cycles. More recently, films, podcasts, and documentaries have been reclaiming menopause in a way that acknowledges its impact without reducing it to medical symptoms.

But there’s still a gap. We see celebrations for births, weddings, and even retirement—but menopause is rarely marked with ritual or recognition. This lack of acknowledgement reinforces the idea that menopause is something to be endured quietly rather than embraced as a powerful transition.

Why Ritual Matters

Rituals are powerful markers of change. They provide a sense of closure and a way to honour what was while welcoming what’s to come. In every society, rituals exist to mark births, deaths, and marriages—key moments that shape our identities and communities.

For women, transitioning to the Matriarchal phase is just as significant. It’s a time to reflect on the wisdom gained through lived experience and to step into a role of leadership and mentorship.

Yet, without ritual, this transition can feel invisible.

Western culture’s aversion to ageing, particularly for women, only compounds this invisibility. Instead of celebrating the power and freedom that comes with menopause, we’re sold anti-ageing products and told to stay youthful at all costs. It’s a narrative that keeps women disconnected from their power.

Living Cyclically in a Linear World

One of the most profound realisations in my professional learning journey was that women’s hormone cycles don’t fit neatly into a linear, 24-hour model. We are cyclical beings living in a linear world—a world designed around the male circadian rhythm.

Understanding this truth has shaped the way I teach and create courses for women. Through EVE Light and my online courses for fitness professionals, I’ve worked to highlight the power of embracing our cyclical nature. When we live in alignment with our cycles, we unlock a deeper understanding of ourselves. But this understanding shouldn’t end when our periods do.

Menopause is not the death of our cycles—it’s an evolution. Our bodies may no longer follow a menstrual rhythm, but we remain deeply connected to natural cycles: the moon, the seasons, the ebb and flow of life itself. This cyclical wisdom deserves recognition and celebration.

Reclaiming the Matriarch

So, what would it look like to reclaim menopause as a rite of passage?

For me, this exploration has been about more than just marking the end of periods. It’s about challenging the narrative that women’s value is tied to their reproductive years. It’s about stepping into the role of the Matriarch with pride, not shame.

Other cultures and traditions have long recognised the importance of this transition. It’s time we do the same—because leaving behind the reproductive years is not an end, but a powerful new beginning.

What would it look like if you could design the most fitting ritual or ceremony for your transition to Matriarch?

I would love to know – please write in the comments below!

Let me start by saying this: I’m not here to proclaim that my life has magically transformed into a utopia since I stopped drinking alcohol. I don’t claim to possess all the answers or preach that sobriety is the only path to happiness. Instead, I want to share my personal experience and the practical steps I took to give up drinking.

For too many years, alcohol has been a daily companion in my life. It was intertwined with social gatherings and celebrations. But mostly, it was my friend for the more mundane moments. Contracting COVID, which turned into Long COVID, was the formal line in the sand for sobriety; however, my curiosity about giving up started well before. 

My Relationship with Alcohol: Recognising the Patterns

Here are some of the things I noticed about my drinking:

• I drank wine every night, starting around 5pm, whether I wanted to or not.
• It was often the first thing I thought about when I woke up – an inventory of how much I drank the night before and if I needed to shop for more to ensure I had enough for the coming evening.
• My resolutions to drink less or have a DOG (Day Off Grog) Day always evaporated come 5pm.
• I didn’t like others to know how much I was actually drinking.
• It was not giving me the instant relief that it once did. 
• Drinking was no longer serving me.

My decision to quit drinking wasn’t fuelled by grand promises of a flawless existence or an extraordinary transformation. Instead, it was a deeply personal choice to regain control over my life, prioritise my health, and age well.

Practical Steps on My Journey to Sobriety

In this blog, I want to share the practical steps that helped me give my mummy wine time. These strategies, techniques, and mindsets empowered me to make lasting changes. It is my sincere hope they can serve as a source of inspiration or guidance or simply provide an alternative perspective for those contemplating a similar path.

Remember, everyone’s journey is unique, and what worked for me might not work for you. The purpose here is not to impose my views but rather to share practical insights that helped me navigate the complexities of giving up alcohol.

Educating Myself: Book Recommendations and Insights

I read many books, listened to podcasts and trolled the internet for how to give up drinking, all without ever sharing this with anyone. My drinking felt like a dirty secret cloaked with shame that I had let “it” get out of control.

These are my recommendations to get started:

• “Quit Like a Woman” by Holly Whitaker 
• “The alcohol experiment” by Annie Grace 

Both of these books started me intellectualising my dependency on alcohol. They helped me understand why the term alcoholic did not resonate with me – I rarely had blackouts, my life was not a shambles, and alcohol was not, by society’s standards, ruining my life. I was drinking much the same as my peers and exactly how all the marketing campaigns said I should.

Exploring This Naked Mind: A Practical Approach

Annie Grace’s online program, This Naked Mind, was good for the practical move away from alcohol. I have dabbled before with drinking less, but I found it mentally exhausting. All the rules to keep myself within the limits that I set for myself. And then, after a couple of glasses of wine, I didn’t give a fuck anyway.

Her first recommendation is just to be curious. Start to notice others who don’t drink when out. Even if they are strangers at a table next to yours. These people exist. There are plenty of people who don’t drink and who manage social occasions. So, I started to ask myself in social occasions (when I was drinking) what would it be like if I was not drinking. It sounds a little weird, but it is like flirting with a new self-identity. Imagining that you are trying on some new version of you.

Overcoming the First 20 Minutes: Managing the Intensity

And then came the physical crunch of not pouring a glass of wine at 5pm. All resolutions for change could be undone by 4.59pm. So, I continued to drink, but I noticed how long it took before the compulsion/longing/desire to have my first drink took to go away. By playing with my start time, I worked out the intensity of my desire to drink subsided around the 20-minute mark. 

You can do hard things for 20 minutes. I can handle my teeth being drilled (something I really, really hate) when I know exactly how long it will take. Knowing that the feeling would subside in a specific time frame was reassuring in those early days of giving up. 

Replacing the Ritual: Discovering Alternatives

I don’t really like sweet things. My drink of choice was dry white wine. So, I had to find alternatives to pour into my usual wine glass. My favourite is Adapt drinks. Wine was no longer giving me the relaxation that I craved, however, Adapt drinks contain adaptogens that do. They are pretty magical. The other one I enjoyed was Savvy drink – again the ingredients the important here. And I am also pleased to report that a fantastic range of non-alcoholic beers is now on the market – perfect for a hot sunny afternoon at the pub with friends or family.

Now, my main drink of choice now is sparkling water. I have a very sexy soda stream and now I even dehydrate my own organic lime slices. 

Navigating Social Situations: Handling Firsts as a Non-Drinker

Part of the reason it is so hard to give up drinking is imagining the things that you normally do that are habitually associated with alcohol.

Things like:

• Hanging out with dear friends where it is usual to polish off a few bottles within a fun-filled, silly drunken evening / afternoon / whenever. 
• Christmas, New Years, birthdays, and any other celebrations
• Travelling – I always started any travel with a glass of champagne at the Qantas club and never refused the drinks on the plane. It was 5 o’clock somewhere in the world, right?
• Lunch or dinner at a restaurant 

As I am nearing a year in on my sobriety, these firsts get easier. And I feel more comfortable with them.

I am no longer imagining my life as a non-drinker.

I am a non-drinker.

Looking to the Future: Health, Menopause and Designing a Fulfilling Life

This question is often asked of me – will I drink again. And to be truthful, I try not to spend too much time thinking about it. My answer can waver between – I am just not drinking today. But as time passes, my resolve to not return to the mental gymnastics of all my self-imposed rules to drinking acceptably gets immeasurably stronger. It is so much easier to be a non-drinker.

And finally, as you know, dear reader, I talk a lot about menopause and women’s health. I know full well what the risks are around women and alcohol (read this blog to find out), and to continue to drink is loading the gun of health roulette. As for menopause, I believe it to be like a gateway to the next third of your life. It is a surprise to age and feel and see your body ageing, and you cannot deny the effects of menopause. I want to design the next third of my life to be as healthy and active as possible so that I can travel, be there for my kids (possibly grandkids) and continue to have lots of dirty weekends away with my husband.

 

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I was a big believer in mummy wine time. Mummy wine time is a perfectly acceptable social movement that allows and encourages women to drink. And drink a lot and regularly.

In reflection, when I became a full-time mother, my drinking became more of a problem. I called it “a glass of coping at arsenic hour” – that time of day when I was giving my child an evening bath and feeling exhausted and overwhelmed. A glass or two of wine signified that my workday was almost over. It gave me a little pep to enjoy the short time between putting my baby/child/ren to bed and going to bed myself.

Is Mummy Wine Time really helping?

I didn’t think I had a problem with drinking. After all, I wasn’t drinking in the morning or getting blackout drunk. But the truth was, I was relying on alcohol to help me cope with the demands of motherhood. And my alcohol consumption was growing over the years. And sometimes, I think that my drinking was perhaps triggered by my first birth experience. Giving birth to my daughter is the closest I have ever been to death. It was an extended, messy, frightening butcher show. But it was not really talked about because I had a beautiful, healthy girl to be thankful for.

Anyway, it didn’t matter because my social media feed later confirmed that I had known with my experience with other mums early on – that drinking was a perfectly acceptable way to get through motherhood.

Detox to Retox

I even justified my evening drinking with a “detox to retox” strategy. I started each day with exercise and a green smoothie, but by the end of the day, I would reach for a bottle of wine.

Growing up in a drinking culture, I learned to associate alcohol with fun, relaxation, and socialising. And as a feminist, I felt empowered to drink like a man without shame or judgment.

When I got COVID in August 2022 and got knocked for 6, particularly neurologically, I knew I had to acknowledge that my drinking was not serving me. So I took a step back, looked at my drinking habits more objectively, and realised I needed to change. I wanted a break from waking up each morning, doing a guilty tally of what I had drunk the day before, and then working out if I had enough wine for that afternoon.

What alcohol really does deliver

Researching and writing education around women’s health, I felt like my drinking was compromising my authenticity as a champion for women’s health – when I knew exactly what this level of drinking was doing to my brain, my cancer risk and how it could impact on my ageing for the next third of my life.

Here are some specific risks of drinking for women:

1. Increased risk of breast cancer: Studies have shown that even moderate alcohol consumption can increase the risk of breast cancer in women.
2. Greater risk of liver disease: Women are more susceptible to liver damage from alcohol than men. This is because women’s bodies metabolise alcohol differently than men’s.
3. Greater risk of heart disease: While moderate alcohol consumption may have some cardiovascular benefits, excessive alcohol consumption can increase the risk of heart disease in women.
4. Increased risk of accidents and injuries: Women who drink heavily are at greater risk of accidents and injuries, including car accidents and falls.
5. Increased risk of mental health problems: Alcohol can harm mental health. Women who drink heavily are at greater risk of depression and anxiety.

The Australian Government Department of Health recommends that for healthy men and women, no more than two standard drinks should be consumed on any day to reduce the risk of harm from alcohol-related disease or injury over a lifetime.

Have you seen how small a standard drink is?

And the reality is that alcohol had stopped giving me the high I loved. It was all the promise without the goods. I knew it wasn’t serving me – but it was hard to imagine a life without it.

Alcohol and menopause

And here is some other good news. Not.

Alcohol consumption can have specific effects on women going through menopause. Here are some insights about alcohol and menopause:

1. Hot flashes: Hot flashes are a common symptom of menopause, and alcohol consumption can trigger and intensify hot flashes. For women who already experience hot flashes, avoiding alcohol or limiting their consumption may help alleviate symptoms.
2. Bone health: Menopause can decrease bone density, and excessive alcohol consumption can further increase the risk of osteoporosis. This is because alcohol interferes with the absorption of calcium, which is essential for maintaining healthy bones.
3. Mood changes: Menopause can lead to mood changes such as irritability and depression, and alcohol can worsen these symptoms. For women who are experiencing mood changes, it may be helpful to limit alcohol consumption or avoid it altogether.
4. Sleep problems: Menopause can lead to sleep problems, and alcohol consumption can disrupt sleep patterns and make it harder to fall asleep. For women experiencing sleep problems, avoiding alcohol or limiting their consumption may help improve sleep quality.
5. Weight gain: Menopause can lead to weight gain, and alcohol consumption can contribute to this. Alcohol contains empty calories, and excessive alcohol consumption can lead to weight gain and make it harder to lose weight.

So alcohol was not serving me mentally and physically. Instead, it made it extremely difficult to lose weight and, perhaps most importantly, interrupted my sleep. This means mummy wine time was just a cyclic shit show for my body, mind and Long COVID recovery.

Making any change does not happen overnight. And if any of this has resonated with you – look out for my next blog, where I will write about how I changed from a drinker to a non-drinker.

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